Do you or others minimize your feelings?

Written by Karen Gibbs

Do you or others minimize your feelings? Often we minimise our own feelings and put everyone else before ourselves. Other times, it’s other’s who minimise our feelings leaving us feeling vulnerable or angry. We need to take care of ourselves and especially our spiritual well-being. We need to focus on the good stuff and disregard anything else, even if the negativity is coming from within ourselves. Positive self-talk is very much needed! We learn from everything in life, even the bad stuff. Look for the positives in the negatives and allow yourself the time to just feel what’s going on in your life. Remember..

  1. Every feeling you experience is valid
  2. You have the right to feel the way you do
  3. You own your feelings
  4. Always trust your gut instinct/feelings
  5. Allow yourself time to experience and work out your feelings

“Stop minimizing and discounting your feelings. You have every right to feel the way you do. Your feelings may not always be logical, but they are always valid. Because if you feel something, then you feel it and it’s real to you. It’s not something you can ignore or wish away. It’s there, gnawing at you, tugging at your core, and in order to find peace, you have to give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you feel. You have to let go of what you’ve been told you “should” or “shouldn’t” feel. You have to drown out the voices of people who try to shame you into silence. You have to listen to the sound of your own breathing and honor the truth inside you. Because despite what you may believe, you don’t need anyone’s validation or approval to feel what you feel. Your feelings are inherently right and true. They’re important and they matter — you matter — and it is more than okay to feel what you feel. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, convince you otherwise.”

—  Daniell Koepke



About the author

Karen Gibbs

Karen is a grief and loss mentor residing in Queensland, Australia. She spends her time motivating and inspiring others through her writings and blog posts which she takes great pleasure in creating and designing each day.
Karen published her first book, Scrapbook Creations, in 2002 and won the Sunshine Coast Excellence in Business award for her business of the same name. In 2015 Karen was a contributing author to the #1 best seller "365 Ways to Connect with your Soul." Karen is currently writing a book entitled "Stop The Downward Spiral" - An essential guide to healing and is "Everything the depressed person in your life needs you to know." She continues to put her writing and creative skills into her passion of making a difference in the lives of others and gains inspiration while outdoors with her horse Romey....
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